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  Do Your Emotions Come Back When You Leave a Cult?

  by D wiltshire in

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  do your emotions come back when you leave a cult?.

  i believe they do perhaps as gradually as they left.. i remember when i was 18 yrs old and first started becoming a jw that was 30 yrs ago and the one thing i remember is that i loved my worldly relatives and wanted so much for them to get saved and the emotional torture i went though thinking they were all going to die soon at armageddon.

  it was really hard to cope with the thought of them all being destroyed.. i work really hard not to think about it, and over time i started to view all my nonjw relatives as worthy of destruction at gods hands in order to have my thinking line up with gods.

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  Lady Lee

  I didn't learn to cry again until after I left. It was so hard in the beginning to just let go and give myself permission to feel the grief.

  Because of the emotional controls placed on victims of mind control most people wind up feeling dead inside. The only expression that is allowed is to be happy because you are part of "God's happy people" but inside I was dying and thought of dying every day. Sadness grief loss anger rage are not permitted and if you have to hide some of those stronger feelings then it is only natural that the softer feelings go into hiding too. They only thing left is the mask that hides the true self even from ourselves
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  This is SO SICK and WRONG!

  by SYN in

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  omg.

  this is just wrong on so many levels.

  thongs for young girls!

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  Research indicates pretty conclusively that men's sexuality is visual. Hence all the advertisements using sex images directed at men. Pornography is for the most part and until very recently a man's domain. This is because of the visual connection to sexual images. The internet is full of child porn and even if there aren't children in the picture they women are advertised as being under age or are dressed to look so.

  I agree 100% that a rapist does not care what his victim is wearing. And whatever she is wearing does not make it her fault.

  But there has to be a line between these two issues. Just where do you draw it?

  Even children are sexual beings. I really don't think we need to make their sexuality a conscious effort. They need to be children and be protected from adult sexuality and the perverts who would see them as acceptable sexual peers. Dressing them up in barely-there clothes, teaching them to be sexual being before they need to be is a huge mistake.

  Given that.... knowing my history of being forcible sexualized by an adult when I was 8 yrs old makes me keenly aware of the amount of attention a pervert gives to a child he views as a sexual object. Maybe my viewpoint is squewed but I would rather keep the kids covered up than wearing the thong because next thing will be the thong bikini and they will be on the beach with them
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  This is SO SICK and WRONG!

  by SYN in

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  2. child-abuse

  omg.

  this is just wrong on so many levels.

  thongs for young girls!

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  Lady Lee

  Yup that is sick

  A few years ago in Canada there was an advertizing campaign depicting an umade bed an adult male and a little girl dressing up in mommy's negligee. Public pressure had it off the air in a few days. and a written apology.

  I have an 8-yr old grand-daughter - no way in h**l would she be allowed to wear that. Might as well hang a sign on them "Come and get me" DISGUSTING
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  Adult College Students - Take a Bow!

  by zenpunk in

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  i notice that there are many of us here who were discouraged from going to college/university in our younger years, courtesy of the watchtower society.

  i would just like to say "congrats" to those who, in spite of the indoctrination and the fact that they've had to attend college later while holding down jobs and paying their own way, have attended college and received degrees!.

  when i left high school i went right into pioneering as college was not an option in the witness world.

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  I went back to school after I lef the borg at 33 years old. I tried a couple of courses which I did well enough at to encourage me to go back to school full time. For those of you who did not finish high school I went back as a mature student and didn't have to get my high school diploma first.

  I enrolled in a 3-yr professional counseling program and finished in the top three of the class along with 2 other mature students. We had about 1/3 of the class as mature students.

  After I finished that I continued on to university again specializing n counseling and abuse issues. My girls were teens by then and it took me a little longer to finish but I graduated in 1994.

  And now after a break of a few years I am considering going back for my masters
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  JWs and Stronger Marriages?

  by Pubsinger in

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  a bit of a follow on from the "honesty" thread.. another claim that jws make is that they have stronger marriages and are less likely to divorce.. try writing down all the jw couples that you know of that have divorced.. there are bonus points for those who didnt make 2yrs!.

  i think you will be shocked at the number you can come up with.

  we came up with 60 couples in less than 20mins.

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  (((Grace))) I always knew there was something really wrong in Sue's family. Sorry to hear it was that bad.

  Have a great time at the assmebly. Not only are you public you're Mouthy And not ashamed to show it.
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  JWs and Stronger Marriages?

  by Pubsinger in

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  a bit of a follow on from the "honesty" thread.. another claim that jws make is that they have stronger marriages and are less likely to divorce.. try writing down all the jw couples that you know of that have divorced.. there are bonus points for those who didnt make 2yrs!.

  i think you will be shocked at the number you can come up with.

  we came up with 60 couples in less than 20mins.

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  Grace you have nothing to feel guilty about. I only let you and others see what I wanted you to see. The same goes for Sue. I do blame my mother. She arranged it and forbid me to leave. She made sure I thought I had no where to go. I told her what it was like and she did nothing - as usual.

  And Grace... Sue and I have survived. We have both met and married great men. Our lives are good. And that is what really counts. Wish my mom was more like you. Think I now know why she didn't like you. You have a heart and she doesn't (((grace)))
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  My daughter undergoing cancer surgery

  by TheOldHippie in

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  right now, 4 hours this very minute, removing tumors, still no news - and i am one nervous father ...........

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  ((((((HUGS and healthy thoughts)))))) to you and your family
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  JWs and Stronger Marriages?

  by Pubsinger in

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  a bit of a follow on from the "honesty" thread.. another claim that jws make is that they have stronger marriages and are less likely to divorce.. try writing down all the jw couples that you know of that have divorced.. there are bonus points for those who didnt make 2yrs!.

  i think you will be shocked at the number you can come up with.

  we came up with 60 couples in less than 20mins.

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  I can think of 9 in about 30 seconds

  People used to tell me that they wished when they got married to have a marriage "just like mine" I worked hard to make sure no one knew how bad and abusive our marriage was. Nice and polished on the outside but full of dead man's bones on the inside. Our marriage was over after two weeks but I stayed for fiftenn years because I was told that to leave would mean I would die at armaggedon. I did leave once for about 3 days before around the 3 year mark but went back becuase everyone convinced me that I hadn't tried hard enough and it was my problem not his.
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  Online love

  by StinkyPantz in

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  do you think it's possible to fall in love with someone online?

  assuming they give you a real picture of themselves and are honest about themselves.. is it possible to love this person before you meet them?

  i'm not talking about the kind of love you share with your friends, i'm talking the real deal.

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  Lady Lee

  exactly
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  Lookin' for a little advice tonight...

  by wasasister in

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  i heard from an old friend today - she is a young woman i knew from my last congregation.

  i was asked to attend her bible study because we shared a profession and it was thought we would have something in common.

  in fact, she was a very shy young woman shy and attractive, but not in the traditional, flashy way of many witness girls.

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  Lady Lee

  still waiting for the email to arrive